Understanding Social Media and its Addiction

Whenever you are drawn to social media, you are not aware of why you are going there. Understanding the science of what a human being expects from social media will help clarify all your misconceptions.

You are going to social media to feel your connection. You want to see different perspectives, different activities, different status updates, the posts from people you care about. You find everything that gives you a sense of connectedness with them. Along with these things, you also see many things where you feel left out.

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The problem is you tend to focus more on where you have been left out, or you feel inadequate or dissatisfied and that becomes a problem.

Go to social media but never come out of social media with these problems. If you see some of your friends on a beautiful vacation, don’t feel jealous of them. Look behind the scenes, understand the hard work they have done. All the money that they have spent. All the things that they have been deprived of in taking that holiday.

They have been on the holiday and their post explains just the better part of it. Maybe there is more of the story behind the holiday that you are not aware of.

So whenever you’re on social media and see something that makes you envious, that makes you disconnected, that makes you feel not being a part of something, the problem is with your imagination. The way in which you see things. You see some of your colleagues, or some of your school mates or some of your friends driving a new car, so you just get disturbed about it and you don’t enjoy driving your car anymore.

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That is the popular misconception about social media and it has more to do with you, your perspective, your approach, and absolutely nothing to do with social media per se.

Therefore, whenever you think social media is an addiction or something which you don’t think good about, correct your belief. Social media is a very nice medium. It’s for you to connect with people. Anytime, anything u see or anything u think or imagine gives you the feeling of being left out, the problem is with ur imagination. Don’t blame social media for that.

If some of your school friends had a reunion, and you have not been tagged or invited there is no need to feel bad about it.

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It’s the understanding of the reality that when these people tried to connect, sent out messages, they could only reach out to a few people they were in touch with. They tried contacting you but you couldn’t respond…or you had 5 missed calls from unknown numbers and maybe on friends tried calling you one of those numbers

If you were not in touch with any of them it’s up to you to start connecting to them. Start reaching out to them, you may have a reunion after a year, where you can be in the middle of it, center of it, a better idea is you should plan one.

That’s how you should look at social media and not the way of disconnecting itself because of social media.

Popular Belief: Social Media is Unhealthy

Supported by: Popular articles from Psychology Today, Independent.co.uk, and bbc.com hint at social media being the reason behind depression, loneliness, and other negative behavior in human beings.

Existential Reality Check:
Social media is just a medium and not an entity in itself. It isn’t bad or evil but just an amazing medium where the whole world can connect, share, and live moments virtually. Humans behave according to their beliefs instilled in them by culture and education and social media cannot be blamed for this. If we use social media responsibly and carefully we can know different people and build amazing relationships across the world. We will be able to perceive that all human beings, no matter from which culture, ethnicity, or race they belong to, have essentially the same characteristics of goodness and fairness.